A toddler who never tantrums is more concerning to a psychologist than one who does so frequently! Toddlers don’t have the brain capacity necessary to regulate their own emotions; so when they get angry, scared or upset, they don’t have the emotional ‘self-talk’ necessary to calm themselves down and to stop the resulting tantrum.
Toddlers should be made to share
In order for toddlers to learn to share, they first have to understand the concept. In order to understand the concept of sharing, they have to consider why they should share – i.e. consider the feelings of other people. The problem is that empathy does not form properly until a child is ready to enter Key Stage 2.
Time-out is an effective form of behaviour control
When toddlers misbehave it is usually a call for help. What toddlers need is time spent one-to-one with a practitioner giving them their full attention and helping to calm them down.
Stickers and reward charts are an effective form of behaviour control
Relying on extrinsic motivation can result in demotivated children who will only do things if they are rewarded or ultimately, bribed.
Toddlers who are picky eaters are problematic
Toddlers are born picky eaters. Toddlers are hard-wired to be neophobic, that is they are fearful and reluctant to try new foods. This is important from an evolutionary perspective as it keeps them safe. In addition, food tastes much stronger to toddlers. They have many more taste buds than adults, and bitter tastes are particularly highlighted.